Just across the way we take extra care and effort to retrieve those that have given everything.
I am often, now, seeing guys around here one week, and the next week, just doing their thing. Very young guys. 19, 20 years of age. Bright, fresh, vigorous--they are out to save the world!
They are US Soldiers!, they are US Marines!!
They are, now, no longer with us.
There will be more services to remember and honor these heroes, just as I have been to so many, already, since 9.11.2001.
I will always remember one friend that I served with here, a really good guy, a fine Marine.
I had long conversations with him, about home, about his family. There weren't a lot of Americans around to begin with so whenever we met, we kinda just enjoyed the time to relax, let our guards down, be normal guys in a not so normal situation, about the same age, the same rank, so we could relax. Nothing to prove with each other, just friends. Sometimes we met on a daily basis, to discuss business, to discuss pleasure. To eat dinner, by ourselves or with the Iraqi officers. Sat in long boring meetings, laughed about it afterwards, had arguments about things that all seem so silly now.
As the military is often busy, he moved on to go about the things we do in a war zone, and so I didn't get to see him as much.
I will remember the last time that I saw him. We were playing Spades, like we often do at night, when the time at hand is slow, and soldiers don't have missions to run down desolate highways in the middle of Iraq at night.
He opened the dooor, walks in, I'm the first person he sees as I sit in the chair at our card table, closest to the door, I see the happy recognition in his face, he starts a little, gets a broad smile on his face. Laughs a little.
"I've never seen your hair THAT long before! Ha ha"
Me "Yeah, I tell my friends back home it is Air Force long. I've had it longer, you just haven't been around."
We talk awhile, make idle chit chat, just two guys that have our own parts to play in this war that the United States sent us to, in a dirty place where people detest us, and with such foreign sounding names "al Anbar" "Quaim" "Basra" "Baquba".
He gets ready to leave, straps on 40 pounds of gear, tightens his chin strap, gathers his weapons. He turns to leave, opens the door. I stop him before he goes, turn him around by grabbing the armored flak vest at his shoulder {Hey don't leave, ok, it's been awhile! Grab a coffee or something.} shake his hand, I don't say what I'm thinking, instead I say "Take care, ok, I'll see you soon."
But I won't see him soon, he died shortly after that. I heard it, on the radio. Heard the whole thing. Another casualty in the war in Iraq. He will leave behind a weeping young wife and children that will never fully know their father. What you will know about him is purely statistical, a name, and a rank, an age, the place he died, and maybe a short excerpt on what he was doing.
The part that will never be seen by you is all of the good and right that he brought with him, where he went, with what he did.

17 Comments:
That is truly heartbreaking. War is such an ugly thing. I'm so sorry for his poor wife and children and the families of all of the soldiers that have died. I hope they can all come home soon.
I'm sorry that I never know what to say. That was beautiful and thanks for posting it, and... well, I am sorry, for you and for him, and his family. As Lizzie has already said... and I hope that all of you come home, and I am praying for your safety.
You need to very seriously consider writing a book about your experiences once your tour is over. Better yet, you could start the first draft right now. Your entries are so raw and honest. It is obvious from the volume of comments you get that people from all walks of life really respond to your style. Every single one of your entries should find its way, word for word, into whatever type of memior you choose to write. I have bookmarked your blog under my favorites and I look forward to reading more of your very poignant insights. I know you are very busy defending the world right now, but if you have a moment, think about documenting your entries for a book. I promise I will buy a copy. I was recently published myself so I have info on a publisher if you are interested. Good luck and I will keep reading.
I think i am like so many others reading your writings... utterly incapable of expressing...anything really.
I am sorry. So sorry. For you, your friend, his family, fellow soldiers, named and un-named.
But i am also thankful that i get to hear and see everything you have to say.
I agree with creative class nomad that you should wrap all your posts up in a book, because the world at large needs, and wants to know.
Take care Chairborne.
What they said Chairborne. I've sent yout link to so many people and i know they read you regularly.
So sorry for your loss. Stay strong.
Thank you for writing this. Thank you for serving our country. Thank you and to all of the military for putting your lives on the line everyday.
As wonderful, powerful and enlightening as always. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for sharing, CS. And thanks for doing what you are doing. Stay safe.
*HUG*
I am sorry I never have the right words to make things okay. I hope you take comfort in the fact that so many people here are rooting for you.
As you know I read you all the time, and I hope you understand how much your blog impacts all of the readers.
Thank you - hugs-
Remind me to be slightly angry with Adam for making me find you.
Your writing is compelling - not even because of the truth within it - but because of how it is written and how you seem to attempt to show as much as you can while still keeping so much hidden.
I agree with Creative Class - you need to truly think about writing a book, or at the very least saving all your blogs and publishing it just as it is here.
You're amazing. What you do everyday is amazing. That you can write about it after doing it is amazing. Thank you for everything you do for us. Thank God for those around you who do the same.
As a lot of people who pop in and visit your blog, I find it very hard to come up with adequate comments.
I'll just add another "keep safe"
With NEVER let your guard down....especially near the translator's
Darius
Oh, and how is the mouse and is the pile of sand still there or are the guy's in the orange jumpsuits trying to bury somehing 155 mm sized in it?
the eloquence of your words defies that shithole you seem to be deep in. keep safe, mate.
not sure if you get to say g'day to any aussies over there (we don't have too many in the hotspots) but my schoolmate's somewhere in the gulf flying orions. give him a wave, he's as bored as you seem to be.
God bless.
I can't even begin to imagine how horrible it must be to watch your friends die....I'm sure he is in shock. And people wonder why soldiers have nightmares and other problems once they return home. That's too much for anyone to process!
Take Care and Please Stay Safe!
Denise
Dear CS, I am so sad to hear about your friend. Im sad for his family and friends that are left behind to grieve.
Justin was just here a week ago. He goes back on the 6th. While he was home some of his buddies and a colonel were killed in a roadside attack. If he had not been here, I hate to think what might have been and now he is going back. Im scared. Scared for all of you. I worry when you dont post.
Thanks for the thoughts.
Meghansdiscontent, I thought about posting his name when I wrote this. Hoping not to sound stupid, I think keeping his name anonymous is the right way for me to remember him here, along with all the other Marines and service men and women that have paid so much.
DT Mickey the Mouse is very hungry, apparently. The sand is good, and I see orange jumpsuits every day.
Rb_still waiting to see an Aussie. maybe in Basra? That's way too far from me.
D--Justin will be fine, promise.
You're right.
The anonymity is what keeps you from being one of the ones searching for pity . . you're telling your story. You're telling his story. You're not looking for people to feel sorry for you because someone died that you were close to.
Also, the anonymity (in my opinion) makes that person closer to us. Because we imagine who and what he was. We think of him as ANY man. As our father, our brother, our boyfriend . . . Becuase we DONT know who or what he was, we are able to put our spin on it and feel it that much deeper.
You did the right thing.
And think about it like this, would you have liked Howard Roarke as much as you probably did if you had known more about him than Rand told you? Or was his distance what let you feel.
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